You have been looking aytour relationship using the natal chart, which is fine for the beginning of both of your lives, iIMO,
but not for situation where clearly your current challenges are impacting you.
Challenges are different at different periods of life. While your birth challenges are impactive and transform the natal tendencies, getting that together in one pile cn make yu know where it all came from, but unless you deal with the current challenges that fate has provided you, unless you lern more about how you deal with this life and what the current challenges are, you may find that, a true scenario with astrology eludes you.
I do this using something in progressions, that is similiar in name only, to solar returns. It is called a progressed return chart. I specifically use 2ndary Progressed Return charts, Tertiary Progressed Return Charts, and Minor Progressed Return charts. Respectively, they represent general challenges, challenges related to feeling or emotions about the current 2ndary progressed chart challenges,, and challenges related to thought about the 2ndary progressed return challenges, as well as potential planning areas to deal with it that exist in potential. For the techies, these charts must be calculated using Quotidian Bija MC progression technic, otherwise they don’t work very well.
So now that we have the preliminaries out of the way, we will look first at the squeaky wheels of your powerful and hard to use planetary energies, aspecting his powerful and hard to use planetary energies.
The first one we want to look at is Your Moon squaring his Saturn.
This is a squeaky wheel between the two of you which is very difficult and emotionally restrictive for both of you. One of the you feels that the other is often an emotional and/or financial burden on the other. This may shift back and forth.
This aspect is often forced by family obligations or economic necessity. This results in drudgery and lack of emotional freedom for one or both of you. Sometimes the relationship is based on ulterior motives of money and status, and has little to do with real friendship or affection. You would need to determine if any of that is the case.
One of the problems is that both of you tend to amplify each other’s fears and remind each other of past misfortunes. Each of you tends to encourage the other’s negative attitudes and block creative initiative with an “it-won’t-work” attitude.
The career and status ambitions and responsibilities of the him tend to conflict with the family and domestic concerns of you. He may get so wrapped up in his career activities as to have no time to devote to the emotional needs of home and family and especially YOU
In general, this aspect shows that both of you tend to have an oppressive, emotionally stifling influence on each other. This can result from excessive severity OF HIS Saturn or excessive dependency OF YOUR Moon or a combination of both. He will tend to have an emotionally depressing, wet-blanket effect on you. And, you both may end up trying to control the other through guilt.
Do you see any of this in your relationship? If so, unless you address it, it will evenutally sink things.
