Thank you in advance to whoever reads and responds to this thread!
To keep things concise, I’m not sure if it’s the Grand Square I have in Fixd Signs or the Pluto aspects to my Moon, Venus and Mars that causes these situations to happen. People intrested in me romantically end up in obessive over the idea of me they won’t let go easily or feel powerless and unseen as my partner. At 1st, I thought Pluto in 7th answered everything, yet even in my worst and most toxic relationship experience, I never felt that way. I wasn’t a fan reading that Pluto in 7th = you dominating ot getting dominated by your partner. I studied various branches of astrology (evolutionary being the standout for me) to do the inner work, address repressed emotions, introspection on what I want I why, etc. So I learned usually those expressions play out due to issues around control as well as self-image and feelings of vulnerablity and agency in relationships.
People only have as power over you as you give them. That power can be reclaimed anytime. You only have full agency when it comes to yourself, mainly in be accountable for your actions and situations you engage in. If I’m too much for others, they can seek lesser elsewhere. Your Integrity and personal truths you’re willing to die embodying is worth more than praise or crictism from the masses.
Even when I was inbetween jobs and felt far from peak, the narc trying to love bomb and control me felt powerless and was much more emotionally unstable due to that. I’ve been told emotional security, cerativity, intelleuence, etc have been things that caught admier’s attentions. Yet even when I’m up front with being open to a relationship or rejecting it (please no more online ones lol) they seem to just try to hold on to me even if it hurts them. Even if I blantly point it out and and see it.
Venus rules my 7th House and is in my 12th. Only one ex out of my entire dating history would I consider an “enemy”, but that period was short lived before they vanished entirely from my social sphere. I know my 10th House Sun-Uranus-Neptune in a T-Square with Jupiter and Mars can have people see me as “competent” among various other things. I know with that being transparent with expecations and goals helps avoid some mishaps, yet I do not know which angle I should appoarch here to resolve this pattern. My career path is in Social work, so I do put the aspects for emotional intensity and trasmuting/transforming to work. I also creatively write. I don’t know what other outets I can pratically do if it’s a matter of simply having “too much” energy that attracts these types to “balance me out”.
