Response:

For meditation, I encourage you to learn Primordial Sound Meditation from a qualified instructor.  You can locate one in your area through the Chopra.com website. I don’t recommend trying to learn meditation from a book because you cannot follow instructions and monitor your mental processes yourself while you are simultaneously experiencing the quiet depths of the mind. Trying to monitor and guide yourself complicates the purity of the experience.

An exception to this would be the so-hum meditation, which uses mindfulness of your breath as the mental reference.

But, meditation aside, your difficulty in relating to others will not be fully resolved with meditation. You need to look at your beliefs about others in general and see if you can’t find a different viewpoint that allows you to feel good about relating to those around you. To begin with, just because others see the world as “object referral” that doesn’t mean that you can’t still enjoy their company. How you relate to them ultimately depends on your awareness finding the good that is there for you. What you take away from that interaction does not rest upon on how they see the world. So don’t encourage a belief that creates an imaginary barrier between you and others.

Love,

Deepak