This is another side of venus in 12th, the reaction of the partner to that venus. Stifled.
The topic of this thread is Venus in the 12th house of the partner, or mars in the 12th house of the partner.
Whichever aspect we look at, the energy that manifests itself is two way.
It can be received and it can be given out.
If you have your Venus in the 12th house, your expression of the Venus energy is muted and controlled.
So you will tend to be not acting out the “typical” sagittarius Venus energy, you keep it more to yourself, more under control, more hidden.
In the same way, your partner/spouse will react to that Venus by not being overly reaching out in an affectionate way. towards you. It is a mirroring situation.
This applies to any partner, not just this one specific one who is your wife.
If you change wives (not saying you should!) you will find the same or similar situation repeating itself.
The new wife will feel blocked by your Venus in hidden 12th house.
Their spontaneity and enthusiasm over time will be muted, because it is your Venus that holds a hand up and says “Wait, not so fast and not so much, I’ll do it on my terms”.
So they take a step back and wait for your initiative, which can be slow and far between.
This is an underlying energy in your chart.
It can be modified, elaborated, encouraged and negated, depending on other aspects between the two of you, and your complete synastry.
This is of course only a small part of the complete and complex interaction that happens between two people.
Sometimes we wonder why all the partners we meet seem to be similar, and we come across similar difficulties in our relationships. It is because of our own energy. It is how we act and react.
If we arrive at a point where we feel that we have outgrown that energy, we can work at overriding it, but we don’t always arrive at that point. After all, our lives are a work in progress.
This last consideration applies in more general terms, not just our Venus in 12th house.
The 12th remember is where we hold our cards to our chest very carefully hidden.
And not every planet likes to be hidden.
Not sure if this helps.
