When I looked at your natal chart I could find nothing to indicate a lack of friends or romance. So I looked further into the present. The same could be said of general conditions and challenges in your present as shown by your 2ndary Progressed Return chart for you most recent birthday. Your Tertiary Progressed Return Chart for your current birthday shows a bit in the Sun square Uranus, where you may inadvertently be seen as a bit challenging by others, but there again, its not enough.
However, once you get to your current Minor Progressed Return Chart, which shows how you think about the world and other people, and how you plan for interactions…..IT’S ALL VISIBLE.
Your issues are distinctly coming from how you experience others, and that experience of them is something they get right away. And they may tend to move away.
You tend to be very goal focused and goal oriented. Career issues(either a job or schooling) take up a lot of your squeaky wheels of life. But you don’t tend to be a team player: you know what you want, and you know how to get it. And while you are quite young(compared to an old timer like me at 76 anyhow) at 23, you may not need to be a team player. This direct focus on what you want works great for getting things career-wise. But its not so much useful in relationships. In relationships its not about you, its about how you make other people feel cared for and wanted by you. They have to feel that from you first before they will respond with what you seem to want. This part of it is shown by a very high latitude Moon in your Minor Progressed Return chart.
This doesn’t mean that you are not focused on working for friendships and romance. You are. The relationship of Sun Trine Moon shows:
a) Your attempts to balance your life.
b) You try to live through your feelings as well as your intellect, and you communicate with others at both levels. You have tried hard to understand your own moods and feelings and this puts you in a good position to assist others in understanding themselves.
This balance and equilibrium, gives you the opportunity to study your personal life and find out what you need to do to correct any misunderstandings and difficulties with other people that have created tensions between you. And that is why you are here on this forum.
But at the same time, as above with the High Latitude Moon, its all about how you think about the people you interact with. Sun is Also square Saturn and this a biggy.
The problem is not that you are inherently difficult or “unlucky,” but you are struggling with a mental conception that is limiting your ability to present yourself as a potential lover or friend.
You can handle these challenges, but they might take some introspection on your part.
The two questions you must resolve are: (1) how much gratification from others do you think you deserve, and (2) how much do you have to make others feel as though you care about them?
So the struggle for you, whether you know it or not now is a conflict between these two poles: making others feel gratified by you, and making yourself feel gratified.
You may want to break out of your rut of not reaching out with caring to others first but find that you cannot, because some barrier is holding you back from going out and being doing this.
You may wish that you didn’t have to go to work or school or be with people you would prefer not to be with. The problem may be that you may present a bit of an attitude that other people seem to get in your way and interfere with what you are doing.
When you do that, you push people away, even if YOU don’t know you are doing it.
You are young, and none of this may have occurred to you.
Good luck to you. You have all the skills and ability to solve this for yourself. Your charts clearly show you can do it.
