Why you’re single, what relationships are encoded in your chart
Relationships and money in a natal chart are governed by Venus and the 7th house. Your Venus is in Gemini in the Gemini-ruled 3rd house, retrograde. It also rules your 7th house (partnership relationships) and 2nd house (personal earnings). No wonder you have difficulties with both – they’re interconnected. Venus overall has a neutral position, with both negative and positive aspects. In order:
* Venus in Gemini in the 3rd house is very intellectual. (And it also gives a youthful appearance, so your age isn’t an obstacle). This is an approach to relationships where, whether you want it or not, you scan people, noticing everything about the person opposite you, like Sherlock Holmes – both physically and mentally. What’s missing here is naivety – you have a kind of built-in magnifying glass for figuring people out. And therein lies the problem – you get bored when everything becomes obvious. Gemini is a light, curious sign, and without mental stimulation, it’s equivalent to useless communication. For such a Venus, representatives of opposite signs – Sagittarius and Pisces – are very good, because in their depth of thinking, in their scope, you can explore for a long time, drink and not get drunk. Ideally in your relationship, you’ll be aware of all the news, bills, and trips, while your partner will have their head in the clouds, doing big historical things, painting pictures. But there’s a nuance: you yourself might be such an ethereal person, because you already have both energies from this axis, and Neptune is stronger >
* Opposition to Venus from Neptune in Sagittarius from the 9th house, Neptune rules the 12th = I’ll suggest that escapism is characteristic of you, perhaps you play many games, watch series, surf the net, listen to music a lot, in the worst case have dependencies like tobacco or alcohol, and by opposition this diverts attention from Venus. In simple language: you sit at home, spiritually enriching yourself, but your love is walking the streets. There’s no way you’ll meet them at home. You may also have illusions about partners, because you seem so fulfilled judging by your strong Neptune. It may seem that candidates somehow intellectually/culturally fall short, they’re not like in the movies. I’m not saying lower your standards, but I’m suggesting this might be the case. And as the flip side of the coin: you can become enchanted with people knowing them superficially, and then become disappointed. That’s how this opposition works. Moreover, both Venus and Neptune are retrograde, indicating a repeating scenario and most likely getting stuck on exes. Which ultimately makes you think “I’m fine and interested in being by myself.” I’ll note that the 3-9 axis is involved, suggesting that with partners there can be a characteristic gap in worldview, age, or language – conditionally, this could be your student, a person of different faith, a tourist in your city, or a guide in the city you’ve visited. But about the circumstances of meeting later.
* Venus trine Pluto. Pluto in Libra in the 7th house, and Pluto rules the 8th. Your Venus (read: spheres of love and money) receives support from business partners/investors/there’s inheritance or passive income sources like real estate, and someone rents housing from you, or pays you for website hosting. There may also be payments from the state, some social benefits, scholarships. This trine guarantees that you will never be left without money, because there is some fair system or source that provides help to you. This is if there are no relationships. If there are, all this belongs to the partner, and the partner redirects support to you from their accounts. Such a Pluto usually attracts partners who are “dangerous,” influential, either prone to illegal activities or honestly working in structures described above (tax, social services, business). Strong, but not physically, socially. Your parents might have been like this and left you connections, a good family reputation. And in the reverse direction, you support Pluto with your Venus. You can greatly motivate a partner, but not as a patron, but as someone who is cared for. Like “I want to live further from the road for fresh air” – and the very fact that you want this directs you in a positive vector. Your desires activate this trine, launch productive business, for which finances and partners naturally come to you. Pluto is under Venus’s rulership, hence this. Use it. By the way, I often notice in natives with Venus in Gemini a love for cool technological novelties and accessories, like stilts, scooters, VR helmets, glasses. You might collect these out of interest, and this will attract the right person for you. Perhaps your partner is currently working as a consultant in a tech novelty store, and you’ll connect on this topic. Or maybe you do handmade cups or 3D modeling, and a potential partner will appreciate this and help with work. The mechanism is extremely simple: investments from partners above (Pluto Libra) are attracted to activities you love and are curious about (Venus in Gemini).
* 7th house in Libra. Predisposed to have relationships that are intellectual, outwardly beautiful, but not particularly soulful. Of the kind where everyone sees how you give each other socks and bouquets and are touched, but at home you argue. If at work – management may often reward and praise you, but in fact leave your salary at the same level. Unlike you, Aries ASC with Moon in Aries, your partners are more cunning, complicated, may manipulate, but overall you track this with your own airy Venus.
* Pluto in the 7th itself requires turning the soul inside out in relationships. You have to choose: suffer because there are no relationships, or because they exist. One way or another, your partnerships are connected with crises, but you can work with them through the trine with Venus. Example situation: you see that a client is giving too many revisions, albeit in a diplomatic style. You get offended but show patience this time, but for the future already write out the conditions more clearly, that the maximum allowable revisions = 10. In marriage similarly: partner bumps into a nightstand and swears in anger that you put it there, even if not. Instead of shouting back, escalating the conflict, you understand what caused the shouting, and for example, move the nightstand or cover it with soft fabric. In your case, there’s always a logical way to solve problems with partners. I assume the key question here is: “do you really need relationships, or do you actually like being alone and sometimes whining about it?” Judging by Pluto, you might even be proud of this, like such a mysterious loner with a closed heart.
If synthesized, your partnership relationships are heavily tied to intellect and society, but may be hindered by high standards and unwillingness to solve issues patiently.
Circumstances of meeting, where partners are located
Venus ruler of the 7th in the 3rd. Venus in Gemini with aspects from Neptune and Pluto. What I see: While you write, communicate with neighbors, drive a car, go to exhibitions, are anywhere in a crowd – your Venus manifests itself. And the stronger it is, the more prosperous your finances and partnerships. Your partner is most likely waiting for you in one of these crowded places, and preferably one connected with art or education, where there’s an opportunity to interact with others as equals. For example, it could be the opening of a local library or a pottery workshop where you and your partner accidentally sit next to each other. Or you might come as a photographer to an interest-based event and meet who you’re looking for there. The 3rd house often involves situations of learning, communication, and geographically, situations near home. The meeting might be related to providing small services like haircuts or shoe repairs or photography. The main thing is not to sit at home and not be silent. Dating apps, by the way, can help, as they can show people nearby. And probably, you won’t be able to 100% feel that you’ve found “the one.” You’ll have to make a choice with your head, consciously – such is the predisposition to love according to Venus in Gemini. You have to choose, not pushing it off onto the stars. Nothing can make you build relationships except yourself.
Partner image
Attractive, able to maintain conversation, seemingly easy-going at first glance. I’ll assume that in self-presentation you emphasize your personal hard skills, while your partner, on the contrary, tends to blend with the team and emphasize soft skills. To put it simply: this is more likely a manager, HR, PR person, diplomat, lawyer, someone who works more with their tongue than directly with their hands. Such a personality can complement you well in work, “packaging” your services. But beyond the nice socially appropriate facade, the partner has Pluto inside, transformative energy, either big money, big hangups, or all at once. We’re looking for a person with a combination of Scorpio-Libra energies + Pisces-Sag. Most likely options: a well-off web designer / director of their own business / law or taxation specialist / a man in a traditionally female business or a woman in a male sphere, something somehow standing out from the rut, someone special against the background of the majority. Interestingly, does this match the traits of your previous partners?
Overall, I’d be grateful for feedback, how much resonates?
