My little (21) sister and I are somewhat estranged, she has a different dad to me and after our mother died her life, which was already awful beforehand, took a turn for the worst.
While I went off and got married and had a family of my own, my sister was couch surfing by the age of 16 and eventually homeless and drug addicted as she entered adult hood.
We were living in a different state and decided to move here for my husband to study and to be of help to my sister and youngest brothers…
She was locked up for something quite violent and we offered her to have her use our address as her bail address. She was released in March of this year and has not shown much progress in changing her life or letting us help her
She has broken our trust and lied to us a handful of times and continually takes things from the house or moved stuff around, we’ve communicated conditions to her but she still is doing this. Her room is like a bomb went off and she contributes no rent, but also leaves for weeks on end only for her to either show up in the middle of the night or call me to come rescue her…
she has lost the house key we gave her and at this point I am starting to feel like she is just using us. I do not think we are in a position to just dump her unless it’s something tragic, she’s my sister I love her but I don’t want her to not change, she’s is engaging in services and getting government assistance for income, i know she only just got out but it feels like she isn’t interested in doing anything positive.
I want to be patient with her but also don’t want to be blindsided as I have young kids… so here I am
We will only be in this state for 4years and the last 6 months has shot by! My fear is that we will leave her after those 4 years in the same position she was in before she was incarcerated.
TLDR; little sister living with us isn’t showing signs of being honest with us and her drug behaviors make me nervous considering I have two young kids.. can I continue to trust her or am I putting us at risk?
